March 22, 2005, 11:37 AM
a day out
Has anyone experienced when an uncle takes your son to an outing, as mine did taking my son to the Sportsman show, and then refusing to let my son on the rock climbing wall because uncle was worried about him. How do you put relatives at ease? My son is 15 and should get his final diagnosis April 14. His Ped Neurologist thinks he may have TS+, ADHD and OCD. It is the inattentive part of ADHD that my son has. I told the uncle that Glenn can do anything as Glenn is aware of what he is capable of.
March 23, 2005, 05:55 PM
I understand your concern and can relate to it first hand with our son and his grand parents.
Your son's Uncle will balance out in the future and begin to understand the limitations. He probably felt responsible for your son and does not understand the process you have gone through working with doctors. He may not even understand the medical conditions. All this would be new, especially when it is not finalized yet.
Try going with the Uncle sometime when he wants to take your son to an event. Allow your son to explore and monitor the reaction of the Uncle. This helps lay the ground rules for future outings without you.
Our son's grandparents treated him like a fine piece of china in the beginning, not wanting to be responsible for anything and fearing something would go wrong while in their care.
Be patient and set the example for family members so they can follow your lead. These children are basicly the same as any other, you just have to reconize which special needs they have. That is hard for any one not living in the same household to grasp.
You will find this out working with your school system. It is a constant learning process.
I wish you the best and hope everything falls into place for you and your family.