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    hi my name is valerie my son has been dx with ADHD, Anxiety,ODD,LD-nos, & now with tourette's syndrome.
    On friday the scool is having a case conferense re:Bray & how to help him with school. He has major school avoidence,no friends & apparently is getting no work done in school.
    I'm wondering if anyone can help me with what i should know so that i can get all the help for him that he deserves!
    any ideas on how to get him out of the house in the morning to get to school would also be a great help!
    thanks for listening
    val :eek:

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    Hi Val

    The best thing you can do is be prepared. You need to go to this meeting with a clear understanding of your son's needs. Take some time over the next day and list what you believe your son needs when he is in school to make life better for him. You need to have a set of expectations in your mind before going into the meeting so that when they ask for your opinion you are ready to speak to what you expect.

    Have you checked to see what your child is entitled to based on his diagnosis? Regardless of symptoms your child is entitled to a very specific accommodations that will support his style of learning. Does he already have an IEP in place? Have you provided the school or teachers with information on TS plus his associated disorders?

    I have an 8 year old -will be 9 next week - who has TS, ADHD,OCD and Dyslexia. He has gone through periods of avoiding school because it was so difficult and the demands were too high for him. I have a 6 year old who has yet to be diagnosed but presents with the same symptoms and most mornings is upset about having to go to school. He definitely has a "nervous" stomach. For both my boys I have had to resort to "bribing" them. Many would probably argue this is not the route to take. I prefer to call it positive reinforcement or making deals with them. I have used stickers, treats, small promises or even commitments to visit school.

    Many children with TS require extrinsic rewards so I was wondering if your son responds to these types of things? To encourage him to get out the door and into the school you could set up a program at home.

    Do you know why he is not making friends at school? Are the kids aware of his TS plus? In-servicing peers at this age is a good idea because they are so inpressionable and this is the age they start to create clicks etc so you want to ensure they have all the info so they are not assuming things about your son. When my 8 year old was struggling in grade one with connecting with the kids in his class we had the spec ed teacher create social stories with him and worked with him to remember his classmates names etc. Then in grade two I went to the school and in-serviced the two classes so they knew why he did what he did. He had such a great experience socially last year and that has transfered into this year.
    Janet, mom of 4

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    Hi Val:

    School conferences can be a bit daunting so if you can bring someone with you you may feel more comfortable. Usually they will have 3 or 4 people on "their side" of the table and this can be intimidating especially if this is all new to you.

    I do not know your child or what his specific needs are but here is a list of what we negotiated for my son in grade 6. Of course all kids are different and age levels need to be taken into account but this will at least give you an idea of the kinds of things you can ask for.

    Untimed tests
    Extended time to complete assignments
    Provision for "time out" as needed
    One on one organizational assistance
    Seat in close proximity to assistant
    Varying test administration: extra time to complete exams, use of a scribe, Oral testing, separate room to write exams
    Use of word processor to complete written assignments

    As far as getting him off to school in the morning I agree with Janet. We have used the charting system for many years now and it does work for us. We choose one area to work on at a time and put checks on his chart each time he is sucessful. When the chart is full he gets a reward.

    For example: In your case you could say each time you get off to school in the morning without arguing you will earn a check or sticker. I would explain to him that this is what you are working on and you know how hard it is for him so you have thought of a reward system to help him. Then let him help you make the chart and have input as to what the reward will be once his chart is full.

    This is just an idea. All kids are different but I find most will repsond to this type of system and if they have a hand in creating it they are even more motivated to make it work.

    If you decide to try it please let us know how it works for you.

    Good luck with the school this Friday!

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    thank you for your inputs i will try the charts again maybe they will work this time!
    i was just wondering because i'm very new to this tourette's dx & with the case conference comming what does this dx allow him at school i have no idea!

    the o.t. approved him for a word processer but said that it would take at least 1 year to actually recieve it. is there anything else that he is entiled too.
    thanks for listening
    val

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    Hi Val:

    I am not certain that there is a "list" of things that children are entitled to if they have a certain dx. My personal opinion is (and I might be wrong as far as a school is concerned) that children are "entitled" to anything within reason that will enable them to learn.

    Given that you are so new to this I have something for you to consider.

    What about going to the case conference listening to everything they have to say and then saying that you would like to take some time to digest everything they have said as well as consult with the medical professionals that are treating your son before you come up with a "list" of supports that he needs.

    I think the school would find that a reasonable approach. I have often used that approach in the past. I find the school is also a lot more accomodating if they know that you are not "just some emotional parent" wanting things for your child. It does carry some weight if they know that professionals have been consulted.

    And yes I know that parents know their children best however we are often seen as "only" emotional parents by school administrators. Rather than take offense to that I find if I go in knowing that is their take I can use that to my advantage.

    Please let us know how it goes.

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    thank you patti

    i think i might do what you said, it makes more sense to go home & digest what you just heard & think of what's best for your child!
    the school so far has been VERY accomidating to B so i'm pretty confident that they will understand me needing to take some time.

    thank you again
    valerie

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    Val

    What you are describing we live through ourselves. My son has not always been well received in school and making friends can be hard though he keeps trying. Having to face what he perceives as rejection causes him to avoid the school mornings. The in-service program last year did make a big difference for him and mostly helped with staff.

    The key for us is getting him to fall asleep early enough in the evening. Offering a later start to avoid the crowds and he reports to the office each morning so someone knows how things are going for him.
    He also likes to help in the school office and has grown attached to some of the staff.
    The charts for us don't work, but I have seen them work for others in the same situation.

    Patti offered some great tips and most we follow too.

    Having the out or shortening the class time helps for some too. My son has one period that last 1 1/2 hours one day a week. We cut that down to only 45 minutes to one hour.

    He is weak in one class and excels in some of the others. We've pulled him from that one class to put him in with a teacher he is comfortable with and she gives him more attention to assist in his studies.

    Having that 15 minute walk out option works for him too. This shortens the class time when necessary.

    My son also has a quiet place to go so that he can relax from stresses and back up to regroup.

    Sometimes there are issues that we don't recognize and voicing these feelings can be hard at first. My son does not like the size of his locker and hanging his coat up, so he hangs it up in the office.

    If you have an OT on board that is a great start.

    May I suggest if the library has computers your son be permitted to work on his assignments there?
    My son's writing or fine motor skills have always been weak. He can however type faster and more accurate then me. We allow him the privilege and option to work on projects in the library so his work is easier to read. This option has worked well for him.

    Please keep us posted and let us know how the meeting goes.

    If he has a specialist working with him (physician) they can be a big help getting the services or explaining your son's limitations to the school. We have had several school/Doctor meetings and they have made a big difference in the way they approach his education.
    PJK

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